The ecstasy of hearing…. in a relationship.

To feel …. intuition

Being in touch with your own feelings and using words that give total expression to yourself.

Then being present with the other without judging and supporting that the intuition and feelings of the other can be expressed tangibly to the core. The right of decision is yours. How do you do that?

Today I focus on the language we use in contact. Since you are the core of your world you can use the I language and start with: “I can …….”. If you feel in a certain situation: “I can’t ………”. Investigate which thoughts, memories or pictures (past or present) make you feel: “I can’t …… ..”.

Do you find it difficult to talk about feelings or intuitions in an unsafe situation? Never felt the space or received support in upbringing, education, work situation or relationship and contact to talk about how something really feels for you? Is very recognizable to me and nothing strange about it.

I know the experience of ecstasy when I felt someone listen to my tone of feeling without judgment instead of judging and listening to the words used and counting on them. I also wish you that enriching experience Margreet.

I immediately started the Gestalt training and felt that I came home to myself. I have never experienced this in the formal and recognized training courses, which I have also followed and which concentrate on conceptual frameworks about reality.

When we have already followed all the well-intentioned advice to improve our lives and we feel no change. Something stuck? Then it may be time to discover how we can really listen to our own senses and intuition. Being able to discover “that is ……… .. what is” in “here and now” and completely different from the selective observation from the thinking mode.

To be in relationship:

That repeated same “conflict in relationship, feeling misunderstood, feeling pain, feeling standing alone, defending“ the self ”, have a meaning and that meaning is released when there is attention for each other being able to see in that level of feeling. In Gestalt we call this the foreground and background configuration. If the dialogue with the deeper self is disturbed, it is not possible to give clarity and expression to yourself in the living situation. To unveil the negative emotion, loving awareness is needed, so that the balance of positive and negative can be restored and you can choose where you stand.

Relationship training, individual training or group training via video calling.

Feeling that magical moment of contact. When someone in the group has clarity in themselves and in the situation. The tears of emotion flow and everyone in the group can feel the meaning and recognize what is present. I am present and grateful in the awareness of being in touch with the wisdom of the “self”. Support through the group and sharing recognition. We are not alone in it.

In the training we will untangle the whole mess of emotions, feelings and thinking with pure thoughtfulness. We practice with dance, movement, expressing yourself, meditation and reflecting on where you stand without judgment. Exploring and recognizing blockages. With deepened insight and understanding for yourself in the old situation, it can be seen and released in the here and now. Become your own master (es) and feel your own rhythm and cadence in contact or relationship. Tune in and move. Perceiving inwardly. Express appearance.

These training courses are for anyone who wants to discover, is willing to experience and wants to reflect on what presents itself here and now. Whether you are a therapist and want to retrain at an experience level, a student or need extra inspiration. If you need to reflect in a nourishing environment on “know yourself” or attention for “the common thread” in your life, then these training courses contribute to that.

My name is Evert van der Weide, I lived in Thailand since 2007 and in France since 2009, I now have 41 years of experience as a Gestalt therapist; see Linked. I work with individual, relationship conversations, supervision and I work with specific Gestalt weekend / Gestalt week training courses in the Netherlands, France and Thailand.

For information and data about various training courses you can e-mail me with name, address and telephone. Do you want to receive weekly e-mails or specific information (theme of your life) or a registration form.


For inspiration: “Won’t Get Fooled Again” by The Who with subtitles:

Find your own light and truth. The new revolution. Folder in preparation

Gestalt week “nourishing relationships” 24-31 August 2021 in France

Register before 1 May 2021

Depending on the corona perils on location in France or worldwide via Zoom video.

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