Rediscover inspiration in relationship…. in contact

Fall and rise …. A new way

Today I am concentrating on clarity in my own feelings. You may feel confused in your own thinking about feeling. Usually feeling takes place in a situation. In a field in gestalt terms. Imagine that you are in the field and you are surrounded by people who play a role in your life. With whom do you feel distance and with whom do you feel closeness?

Re-source and return to finding words by feeling and exploring the intuitions. Referring to your own observations without lapsing into making yourself dependent on the confirmation by another.

Listen to yourself, enter into a dialogue with yourself and then when you instinctively find the right words with which you can express yourself without judging the other. Then you can articulate what the actions of the other do in you. In which you feel positively or negatively affected and which reactions you feel arise.

Labeling is simplifying reality, falsifying it. Just like “one-liners”, or as I like to call it “kill eaters”. Or judge based on simple facts. I always mention the map is not the area. Each of us shows only a small part of the real self, or just the facade, the image of yourself that you want to maintain. I know that each of you is much more than you show on the surface. And in safe situations that will probably become visible, because you can make yourself known. I also assume that you have had experiences on the basis of which you are now judging sharply. I invite to share these experiences, so that I can understand more from where you judge sharply, label, lard killers, because you may have had bad experiences. You are infinitely more than “your reaction”. Wisdom is present in you. Unveil.

What is your fore- or background that you chose in live

In the relationship “standing up”: being the man or woman you are.

Beneath the different outer layers of the personality, you may perceive that more is present. That repeats the same “conflict in relationship, feeling misunderstood, feeling pain, feeling alone, defending“ the self ”, have to do with entrenched reaction patterns, beliefs and opinions that have arisen in upbringing, education and work situation. In Gestalt we call this the foreground and background configuration. If the dialogue with the deeper self is disturbed (the truth behind the words) it is not possible to give clarity and expression to yourself in the living situation. To unveil the negative emotion, loving awareness is needed, so that the balance of positive and negative can be restored and you can choose where to stand.

Relationship training, individual- or group training by video calling.

In the training we will untangle the whole mess of emotions, feelings and thinking with pure awareness of the meaning in your life now, enter into a dialogue with the different facets of yourself. We practice with dance, movement, expressing yourself, meditation and reflecting on where you stand without judgment. Exploring and recognizing blockages. With deepened insight and understanding for yourself in the old situation, it can be seen and released in the here and now. Become your own master (es) and feel your own rhythm and cadence in contact or relationship. Tune in and move. Perceiving inwardly. Express appearance.

Be aware

These training courses are only for people who want to discover, are willing to experience and want to reflect on what presents itself in the here and now. Whether you are a therapist and want to retrain at an experience level, a student or need extra inspiration. If you need to reflect in a nourishing environment on “know yourself” or attention for “the common thread” in your life, then these training courses contribute to that.

My name is Evert van der Weide, I lived in Thailand since 2007 and in France since 2009, I now have 41 years of experience as a Gestalt therapist; see Linked. I work with individual, relationship conversations, supervision and I work with specific Gestalt weekend / Gestalt week training courses in the Netherlands, France and Thailand.

For information and data about various training courses you can e-mail me with name, address and telephone. Do you want to receive weekly e-mails or specific information (theme of your life) or a registration form.


For inspiration: “Revolution” by The Beatles with subtitles:

Find your own light and truth. The new revolution.  folder in preparation

Gestalt week “nourishing relationships” 24-31 August 2021 in France

Register before 1 May 2021

Depending on the corona perils on location in France or worldwide via Zoom video.

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