Can you appreciate difference?
Contact is the appreciation of the difference: has begun to observe from different positions and thus transcend the entrenched thought patterns
Is being present on another level in contact, in relationship. Is being present for another from a deepened awareness with giving space to difference. Is being able to empathize with yourself and being able to empathize with someone else. Staying present in the spirit in the self that transcends all oppressive thinking.
You know that feeling of something gnawing? So apparently everything is going well. Social contacts are ongoing and yet……? You walk with a nagging “unheimlich” feeling.
Perhaps attention is needed from the deeper layers of being in the here and now. Recalls in me the memory of participating in the gestalt training where the focus is on the “real self” and there is encouragement to show your “self” in what is essential to you. Also lovingly look at what you are doing and observe the negative effect. When you see what you avoid feeling, you regain freedom of choice. Can you look at what you need in your contacts and how you are doing that so far and consider the effect on the other person. We don’t have to bump into the same rock every time we allow pure perception.
Emotion flares up when feelings are exchanged on the same wavelength. The feelings vibrate.
Beauty
Purity
Grow and
Bloom
You are understood. You can intuitively perceive what really feels and that is more than seeing, listening and thinking. Back to what you experience about your own feelings and that is also the negative feelings, the constriction that you feel. Find clean words for that. (don’t hit with the blunt axe). Showing yourself makes the encounter possible in a non-judgmental situation.
Gestaltworkshop 26-27 november 2021
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In our daily lives we often see reality through the colored glasses of our old experiences, bad memories, fears, old habits, prejudices, worn-out beliefs, 2nd hand advice and ideas from “experts” about reality with e.g. one-liners or what I call “death eaters” which should be true.
I now have the image before me of a beautiful moment in the Gestalt group when a participant comes into contact with the deeper emotions from a situation in daily life. Life energy suddenly flows and every participant in the group breathes more deeply. Several participants in the group recognize themselves in the experience of the situation and feel moved by the purity and authenticity of the expression of those tangible emotions in a certain situation. Being able to empathize with each other creates a feeling of unparalleled connection. We are not alone in this world. We are connected.
Pattern in daily life is usually to avoid really feeling deeper and exploring that. Life is then experienced as a routine. Vitality gone. Everything seems the same, while nothing is the same. Pay attention to the difference and make fascinating discoveries. Acknowledging difference makes us discover how we are connected. Difference between living in a behavioral armor or taking respectful risk in contact and then? Come into a new situation, let yourself go and experience the ecstasy of living in the power of the now.
These trainings are only for people who want to discover themselves, who are willing to experience and who want to reflect on what presents itself in the here and now. Whether you are a therapist and want to train at an experience level, a student or if you need extra inspiration. If you feel the need to reflect on “know your self” or pay attention to “the common thread” in your life in a nurturing environment, these training courses will contribute to that.
Connected,
Evert van der Weide
If you want to know more about me. See: http://www.degeleroos.nl/Personalia.htm
See the book “Gestalttherapy Handbook”. ed. Karnak, Amsterdam.
Phone. or text: +33 (0)6 27 78 62 52 or email degeleroos@gmail.com Video calling Skype, Zoom, Whatsapp, Messenger. You can now make an appointment.
See also the website: www.degeleroos.nl
For inspiration listen to: Alabama shakes with “You ain’t alone”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fy3Qij4pFK4&ab_channel=lauralulu with lyrics
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